Self-confidence is a super power. Once you start to believe in yourself, magic starts happening. One must remember this whenever they find themselves in a situation that feels tougher than ever. The only person who can ever get you out of these painful, distressing times is you and your belief in yourself.
Confidence is important in today’s world more than ever because the competition is on an all-time high and the only person who is going to stand by you and get you through it is you.
However, what are some habits that keep you from being the best version of yourself? We all read enough about how to build confidence and how to motivate others. But, what are some traits that keep you from achieving your best potential?
Let’s find out…
- Constant comparison with others: Nobody’s journey is the same as yours and not everyone has the same personal or professional goals like you. Your only real parameter of growth is how far have you come at a personal level. As long as you strive to be a better and more aware version of yourself every day, you are on the right track.
- Taking failure to heart: If success was to come easy, it wouldn’t feel like a victory. If everything was to be served on a platter, you wouldn’t enjoy it, not every minute would feel like something you should cherish. Failures are important and they tell you that your life is yet to bring you the best of experiences and achievements. You can wake up every day wanting more opportunities to learn and challenges to face. Learn from your failures and do better.
- Surrounding yourself with superficial people: Keeping your circle small is okay. It’s okay to keep to yourself and not have someone to go for Saturday night parties with. It’s okay to not have every colleague invite you to all sorts of galas because not everyone in each room will want the best for you. Instead of surrounding yourself with people who will fill you up with negative vibrations and a sense of self-doubt, surround yourself with people who do not wish to compete with you or demotivate you. These are the people who will be cheering for you from the front row seat, showing off your every move and telling you how proud they are of you.
- Pitying yourself: Self-pity is one of the worst things you can put yourself through. Yes, people have it better and yes, some people have it worse. But your journey is different and no, bad things do not happen only to you. Create your reality and learn to believe in yourself. Make the best of every opportunity and if it doesn’t work out, do not live the rest of your life doubting your every move. Instead, figure out what you could’ve done better and experiment more. Nothing lasts forever so you mustn’t continue feeling like the hardships will never end for you.
- Constantly overthinking: Stop convincing yourself that your work is subpar and stop creating unreal scenarios in your head. You will not get fired for printing the wrong sheet or highlighting the word wrong. Even if you have messed up on a larger scale, a good mentor will always tell you it’s alright and tell you what you could have done better. What’s the worst that’ll happen? You’ll get fired. It’s a tough world but it’s also one with booming opportunities. You might not end up doing what you love immediately but with the right mindset and ambition, everything is achievable. That is all you need to convince your mind of. Everything else can be dealt with.
So now, put on that suit you bought and remind yourself that you are ready to take over the world. Quit the practices that make you feel less confident and take away the belief that you need to have in yourself.